LOVE HAPPENS even on SL
I finally met my Second Life husband several weeks ago in Real Life and it wasn’t what I thought it would be.
It was so much better. It was magical and more than what I could ever imagine. We are more in love than ever.
When I first met Editorial Clarity, it was his voice I heard first. He was hosting a show and I just arrived and heard this really sexy voice on the stream. I am extremely shy so I usually never ever message anyone especially to flirt, but that day something told me to contact him. I remembered saying hello and asking him, “Is that really your voice? You sound sexy.” LOL. I know..very cheesy. :p At the start, he hated me and couldn’t stand me. I went to a magazine job interview once and I knew I didn’t get hired because he was one of the judges. (And I was right. ;p) It was one of the really few jobs that I applied and didn’t get hired. I was very shocked because during that time in my SL modeling career, I was winning almost every contest/jobs/castings that I would go for. I was a fairly new model and Edi hated the fact that my face was everywhere…shows, vendors, magazines. Eventually we became friends and he used to wait up for me late at night to chat. I knew he was starting to like me but people used to warn me to stay away because he belonged to someone else. I’ve always known he was gay and he used to change the topic when I ask so I would always joke with him and ask him to marry me. LOL. One night he messaged me and asked if we could properly date. I said yes and a few months later, we got married on August 27, 2011. The wedding was just magical.
I have always wanted my SL to be separate from my RL. I am a very private person and I had very clear boundaries between my SL and RL. Due to bad past experiences, I wanted to keep my RL personal information private including what I look like in RL. I had a couple SL relationships before Edi and I have always treated it as “SL Fun” or deep friendship at most. I never wanted to fall in love in SL but with Edi, it happened. When I married Edi, I thought it would be just an SL “fling”. Then it got deeper as we spend more and more time together in skype. He used to beg me to put my skype video on and I would find whatever excuse I could not to. You see, I lied to him about what I look like. I sent him fake pictures of a RL friend and pretended that it was me. (YES, my friend knows.) Only very few people in SL have seen what I look like in RL. Am I ugly in RL? HEll NO! ;p I’m not Brad Pitt but I can still get a lot of dates. To be honest, I wanted to show him the RL me before we got married but part of me was afraid. I wanted to trust him more to share something very personal. The more I lied, the harder it got to tell the truth. One day, I finally told him and showed myself on skype video. I thought it would be the end of us especially since we were going through a hard time. I felt horrible and was ready to take whatever punishment he would give me, but he looked at me on skype video and he smiled. He said, “That’s my Rico”. He promised he would never leave me and he is still on my side. He forgave me and I know I would never lie to him again. It is always best to be honest from the start. We are stronger than ever. We went through so much crap…from people trying to break us up, friends not believing in us, and tough circumstances we find ourselves in. The thing is, Edi and I have always managed to fight our way through and it made us stronger each and every time. He makes me laugh, he makes me cry. He makes me frustrated, He makes me proud of him. He makes me yell obscenities, he makes me write love poems. Most of all, he makes me be a better person and I love him with all my heart. If someone ever hurts him, even one hair on his head, I know I would fight and defend him no matter who it is. Edi made me see what is important in life….not fame or fortune..but just to live and make the most out of life. To love and be loved in return is the greatest thing.
If you ever find love whether in SL or RL, don’t let anything or anyone stop you. Love is LOVE. It is special no matter where you find it. I used to be one of those people who thinks SL relationships should be kept just to SL but sometimes things don’t turn out as you plan…..it turns out better. I can say for sure that it is worth it. Meeting Edi for the first time in RL was just amazing. The first time our eyes met, it felt like time stopped. The first RL touch, smell, kiss…..It’s like getting everything you want for Christmas and so much more. We both felt like we have always been together in RL and everything was so natural and carefree. I don’t know what the future holds for me and Edi. I know we are very happy and we will take it one day at a time and live each moment. Miracles do happen and Anything is possible. Love overcomes everything. ❤
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